I am obsessed with the organization of information because I believe information should be easy to access. In Nov. 2004, I began my 1st blog, Emotional Sobriety: Friends & Lovers as a place to write about my recovery journey that began Nov. 24, 1976. That blog is still active today. Since then, I have created 40 blogs–most around one theme from that first blog. But people aren’t reading blogs as much today. In 2012, for Emotional Sobriety, I had 28,000 views. So far, this year, I have had 1,000. A view is a reader and is counted one time per year by WordPress and published in the blog’s insights.
I have also created many ebooks, forums, newsletters, groups, and Facebook pages–all of which left me longing for a better way to organize my writing. My newest endeavor, creating online courses, gives me the ability to organize my writing in an easy to access format. So I am turning all my writings over the last 13 years into courses.
Much of my writing is interrelated so splitting the topics apart was hard. I have included one segment in all the courses because I believe in having a home group for immediate support as well as online support groups for further investigation. That lesson included in all is “Online Support Groups’ which gives groups online according to topic.
All the courses have a free landing page which introduces the course as well as a table of contents of the material. When you click on the following links, you will be on the landing page.
The courses available to buy are:
Codependency Recovery is Ground Zero for Addiction. I would love my legacy to be helping everyone learn that we all need codependency recovery to recover from the childhood wounds which underlie the addiction. I needed deeper trauma work than the 12 steps for this recovery.
Codependency is the maladaptive behavior we learned as children. Codependency is also the foundation for addiction. As well as the 12 steps for addiction recovery work, they don’t change our codependent behavior patterns. And we continue to use these patterns in all of our adult relationships.
Everyone can benefit from codependency recovery. All you need in the beginning is a willingness to learn more about it. Everyone who has ever loved has given more than they have received in a relationship. If this is a pattern in several relationships throughout your life, you need to look at how you get hooked into this treatment. When you are receiving less than you need and/or want, your self-esteem and confidence suffers.
Addiction Recovery Has Many Paths: Don’t Be Afraid to Take Several. I have taken every path I found to unlock the mystery of me. I believe the understanding of self is life’s greatest triumph. Learning how to give it away is life’s greatest joy.
For 40 years, I have belonged to the most under served population in the addiction/mental health field. Dual diagnosis/co-occurring members have special needs. Living with the “Double Whammy”–addiction and depression recovery, I have had to learn relapse prevention for both. Luckily for me, I decided in 1976 that I would go all in with addiction recovery.
The 12 steps taught me the way out of addiction. But they didn’t help me with depression. I have dysthymia which is milder than other depression types and it comes and goes. I have had to learn everything about my depression by myself. I am sure that is true for most of us with co-occurring or dual diagnosis. The mental health field can provide labels, medication, and sometimes, if you are very, very lucky, good counseling. But we have to become our own mental health expert. It is an individual journey.
Addiction is the Bandage. Childhood Trauma is the Wound. Alice Miller, one of childhood therapy pioneers, wrote:”The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were mistreated themselves and were not permitted to defend themselves.”
We each have had a wounded childhood. In order to feel safe, we learned to cover our true feelings. I taught myself so well that even today, although I was born in 1940, when I feel unsafe, I hold my face absolutely rigid so that my feelings can’t be “read” by others.
So our self-image is distorted from our childhood. We want to believe that the self-image that we are projecting to the world is our true self. But our true self knows that this image is not who we are. So until we allow these inner distortions to be healed we are living an inner battle.
90% of Americans have low self-esteem. Our self-esteem (how we value ourselves) is built on our distorted self-image. Self-esteem can only be strengthened by learning who we really are and then by healing our distorted self image.